Emotions are what make our lives vibrant. They influence the quality of life and the decisions we make. If someone asked me what is the most important thing to teach children, I would say it is the ability to recognize, experience, and express their emotions.
When a person goes through trauma, they face very intense emotions such as rage, terror, disgust, or helplessness. The inability to endure such intensity leads to certain emotions becoming stuck in the nervous system, turning into habits or even dependencies. For instance, a habit of getting angry may develop. At the slightest inconvenience, the person begins to rage, shout, and blame others. In the moment, it might even feel good—making one feel strong and righteous—but in the long term, it ruins relationships and spoils life.
The opposite spectrum of feelings—love, tenderness, and support—becomes inaccessible. Life stops bringing joy and pleasure.
What do we aim for in therapy?To learn to experience the full spectrum of emotions. Without regret for the past or anxiety about the future.When anger is not destructive but is experienced as energy, it helps protect oneself and loved ones. And grief, rather than turning into despair, allows us to connect with love and let go.
Emotions are the signposts on life’s journey. They tell us, 'This is dangerous,' 'This is exciting,' or 'This is amazing.' Living without connection to your emotions is like embarking on a journey without a map or navigation.
How can we understand our emotions?Of course, through connection with bodily sensations.
How do you deal with emotional awareness?Do you have 'favorite' emotions and others that are 'swept under the rug'? 😳How do you handle strong emotions?Share your thoughts—I’d love to hear! 🧐
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